When things don't work out I bunker down and plan harder, refining my strategy, my objectives and, of course, my list-based tactics. Do I sound like a good time or what? I'm OK with failure or disappointment; I don't particularly like it but it doesn't kill me.
What does kill me is when things I don't actively plan work out - no matter how good the consequence. And while this doesn't happen a lot it's worth exploring. Two wonderful albeit frustrating examples include "How I Found My First (And So Far Only) Wife" and "How I Found My Current (But Not Only) Job". Both happened when I Honest to God wasn't looking or trying. Why is it that when I play it cool and/or don't really try I get what I want despite not necessarily being adequately prepared for it? Why is it that when we actually lead with passion and put ourselves out there it often does not?
What is so attractive about indifference? Are people so insecure that they want what they can't have? I'm insecure but don't feel that way: if I feel something is out-of-reach then I simply reach for something a bit closer. When I'm on the receiving end I want someone who is both highly qualified and highly desirous of whatever asset I'm selling. If they are not "into it" then it's over because I demand both competence and commitment. One of these attributes alone is simply not enough.
Does it mean that trying is out because it's not 100% fail-proof? No. It must mean - at least for me - than one must optimize a strategy and tactics around a quest with a reasonable amount of time and preparation and then execute it with a reasonable amount of passion. Enough passion to keep those who want intrigue intrigued and those who want more with more. Turn it up, turn it down for for God's Sake, man, don't you ever turn it off!
2 comments:
Amen Brother! Even though by nature I am NOT a planner. I am more of a VISION person. I have this vision of what will happen, where I will be but not exactly how I will get there. But the way things happen in between often amazes me.
Someone once told me that "if you want an interesting time, be sure to tell God what your plans are". If I can remember who that someone is, remind me to slug him!
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